Thank you to the research group at SPARKLE, Kings College London, for having me as an expert this morning in their research trial 'Supporting Parents and Kids Through Lockdown Experiences.'
I absolutely loved the opportunity to speak for a recording on self-esteem.
What an important topic for children and parents.
Self-esteem is how we view ourselves.
It is an incredibly important hallmark for emotional wellness. How we view ourselves, and the beliefs we hold about ourselves, can impact how we perceive the world around us, and how we perceive other people’s perception of us.
Self-esteem can impact our everyday experiences, in terms of how we feel, how we think, and how we behave.
i.e: Our emotional wellness
Healthy self-esteem supports our attitude to try again, to make mistakes and not give up; to embrace challenges which support our growth, because inside we believe we are ok, we are loveable for who we are, and not because of what we do.
A positive self-esteem supports a growth mindset.
Self-esteem is not set in stone, and there are many things we can do to cultivate and nourish healthy self-esteem.
As parents, we are in a brilliant position to support healthy self-esteem in the growing minds of our children for the rest of their lives.
For positive self-esteem, children need to hear these key messages from their early care-givers:
1) They are loved for who they are, no matter what
2) They are valued
3) They are accepted
4) They matter
Parenting is hard. Parenting is exhausting.
For us to consciously connect with our children so we can convey these incredible messages, we first have to consciously connect with ourselves.
Self-care for parents is paramount.
It is not about trying to be perfect. If we try to be perfect, we are less likely to be able to attune to the emotional needs of our children, and turn to their cues when they need us, because we are too busy trying to be perfect.
So my advice:
Forget about perfect.
Conscious connected parenting is about consciously connecting with our authentic selves, and consciously connecting with our children.
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